Bonjour, mes amies! (Hello, my friends!) I hope you’re having a kickass weekend so far. 🙂
Today, I have decided to start a blog series called ‘Let’s Talk’. I’m going to lay my thoughts bare for all of you to read, and it is going to 100% honest opinions with no BS filters to sugarcoat. In this series, you can expect posts on my thoughts on my experiences and issues in fashion, food, makeup, and life. ‘Let’s Talk’ will be brought to your phone and computer screens, twice a month.
Let’s Talk Today About.. Luxury.
I thought I’d start by talking about something I’ve been pondering about for a while now. It’s about luxury, the one thing that most people including me keep striving for. Luxury is that mysterious femme with dark eyes that call you hither, a red lipped seductive smile that’s easy to succumb to and a classy, expensive diamond necklace to boot.
I feel like we want to be like her, or own what she offers. By her, I mean luxury. But why is luxury so enthralling, engrossing and so elusive? Why does luxury feel attainable but fleeting in the same heartbeat?
What is Luxury Defined As?
Luxury is defined as “the state of great comfort and extravagant living”. Some common associations with luxury are designer handbags and clothes, diamond necklaces, truffle chocolates, sports cars, vacations on a private yacht, owning a private jet, celebrity lifestyles, influencers with more than 100K followers who have brands offering them free goodies and trips globally.. The thing I notice here is this:
Spending loads of money=luxury.
How I Define Luxury
And like yet another preachy person on the internet, here I am to show you another side to luxury. You might think, “Oh, here comes this young woman preaching like she’s a messiah of wisdom. Girl, talk about something else.”
If you thought that exact thing, I won’t be mad at you. You’re entitled to having your own opinions, and I wouldn’t force anything on you. But if you would like to know what I think about luxury, then do give me a chance to explain myself. 🙂
When I looked up luxury on thesaurus.com, here’s something I noticed that made me feel happy. Under the synonyms for luxury, it included-
Comfort, Enjoyment, Leisure, Bliss, Satisfaction and Well-being.
That pretty much is a list of the words I’d personally deem as luxury. There is nothing wrong with treating yourself to an expensive item, meal or trip. In fact, that is an enjoyment that I wish we could all experience at least once in our lives.
Remember, materialism is not the anti-thesis of gratitude.
All I’m saying is, it’s very easy for anyone of us to get caught up in the tide of materialism and start lusting for everything material. It’s easy to override experiences in favor of things, as dub that as luxury. I still do it at times, and I always learn to introspect and meditate on why I see a material item as a luxury or affluence.
My viewpoint on luxury, opulence and/or being rich has changed over the past few weeks. I would majorly associate being affluent with seeing Instagrammers having expensive mansions with brimming closets, global trips and sponsorships with big-name brands. They had all the money in the world, and even more pouring in with brand collaborations. That, to me, WAS the ultimate luxury. I was envious and curious of this kind of luxury, wanting to experience that kind of a lifestyle. Sometimes, I still do want a tidbit of this shining, oozing and cushy luxe.
Now, I have started to find luxury in everyday things. What brought about the change, I can’t really pinpoint at.
I’m not holier-than-thou just because my stance on luxury has changed. But I would say that seeing luxury differently has improved my sanity and my peace of mind.
My Luxury List
I’m not trying to make anyone feel bad by stating these points, and if I did that, I apologize. But today, if you ask me what luxury to me personally is, here’s what I’d say.
- I have the luxury of being a stay-at-home wife, looking for a job but under no duress to find one. My husband’s finances are comfortable to afford us a good standard of life in Seattle.
- I have the luxury of time, and pursuing my hobby of writing via blogs and entertainment via YouTube. Time is fleeting, and the most precious commodity to exist. It is a common luxury that we can all peruse of.
- I am a home owner at the age of 24 (not gloating here, I promise). This is a luxury that we can afford to have because my husband works hard and well at his job.
- I have the luxury of buying additional vegan groceries for myself, other than the usual necessities. To me, even buying almond milk and tofu every week is a luxury that I’m thankful for.
- I have the luxury of buying myself what I want for my personal thrills. I prefer to keep it budgeted, so that my expenditure is a practical amount for self-indulgence. I am grateful to be able to treat myself every month, despite not earning money.
- I have the luxury of managing my household at leisure, of staying in on dreaded Mondays, of being able to carve a routine for myself that is easy to stick to since I’m home-bound. Working women deserve an extra round of applause for managing both home and work, y’all are superstars!
- I had the luxury of learning to drive a car, with zero pressure whatsoever. And boy did I take my time to learn it! Now, I’m a licensed driver. 😀
- I have the luxury of affording travel, at least once a year with my husband. To be able to visit a different place every year is a gift from the heavens for me.
- I have the luxury of waking up in a clean, comfortable house with a loving partner by my side every single day. Cooking different meals for two of us from scratch, and enjoying life at a slow pace.
I am putting this realization into mindful practice every single day: Luxury is everyday routines and things we rely on that make us feel good.
Luxury is living in comfort.
Luxury is a safety blanket that we can afford to weave out of our own situations.
And to find the luxury in our everyday lives, all we need to look around at our surroundings. We realize that there are people and things that bring us such joy, and that is what luxury is all about.
What according to you is luxury? Is there any one thing that you want to treat yourself to this year? Talk to me in the comments section below. 🙂
Until next time, see you soon!